Learn Hardcore Russian: Если ты обиделся на подругу, лучше сказать ей об этом спокойно. - If you got upset with your female friend, it is better to tell her about it calmly.

Если ты обиделся на подругу, лучше сказать ей об этом спокойно.

If you got upset with your female friend, it is better to tell her about it calmly.

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Why is it обиделся, not обидел?

Because обиделся is the reflexive form of the verb: обидеться.

обидеть = to offend someone
обидеться = to get offended / to take offense

So:

Ты обидел подругу = You offended your female friend
Ты обиделся на подругу = You got offended at your female friend

The -ся changes the meaning a lot here. Without it, the sentence would mean the opposite kind of action.

Why is it обиделся in the past tense if the sentence gives advice?

Because the sentence means something like If you have gotten offended or If you got upset/offended. Russian often uses the past tense in если clauses when talking about a situation that may already have happened.

So the structure is:

Если ты обиделся... = If you got offended / if you have taken offense...
лучше сказать... = it’s better to say...

The advice applies after that situation has occurred.

Why does обидеться take на in обиделся на подругу?