היא אמרה שהיא תדבר עם המלצרית בעצמה.

The first היא is the subject of the main clause: she said.

The second היא is the subject of the subordinate clause: that she would speak.

So the structure is:

• היא אמרה = she said
• שהיא תדבר = that she would speak

In English, we also often repeat she: She said that she would speak...

In Hebrew, this repetition is very normal and often clearer than leaving the subject implied.

שהיא is made of two parts:

• ש־ / שֶ־ = that
• היא = she

So:

• שהיא = that she

This ש is extremely common in Hebrew. It introduces a subordinate clause, like English that.

Examples:

• אני חושב שהוא צודק = I think that he is right
• היא אמרה שהיא תדבר = She said that she would speak

In writing, ש is attached directly to the next word.

Hebrew often uses the future tense where English uses would after a past reporting verb like said.

So:

• היא אמרה שהיא תדבר
  literally: She said that she will speak
• natural English: She said that she would speak

This is a very common difference between the two languages. Hebrew does not need a special separate form here for would.

So when you see:

• אמר/אמרה ש... + future verb

it often corresponds to English:

• said that... would ...

Because the subject is היא = she.

Hebrew verbs in the past tense agree with gender and number. So:

• הוא אמר = he said
• היא אמרה = she said

The ־ה ending in אמרה marks feminine singular in the past tense.

Because in Hebrew, תדבר can indeed mean either:

• she will speak
• you (feminine singular) will speak

The form is the same.

What tells you the meaning is the context. Here, the clause begins with שהיא = that she, so תדבר must mean she will speak.

Without context, the form alone could be ambiguous.

• אמרה comes from the root א־מ־ר, related to saying
• תדבר comes from the root ד־ב־ר, related to speaking

These are two different verbs:

• לומר / להגיד = to say
• לדבר = to speak / to talk

So the sentence uses one verb for said and another for speak.

The preposition עם means with.

So:

• לדבר עם מישהו = to speak with / talk to someone

Hebrew commonly uses עם with לדבר.

Examples:

• דיברתי עם המורה = I spoke with the teacher
• היא תדבר עם המלצרית = She will speak with the waitress

You may also hear לדבר אל in some contexts, but לדבר עם is the normal everyday choice for a conversation with someone.

מלצרית means waitress.

It has two parts:

• ה־ = the
• מלצרית = waitress

So:

• מלצרית = a waitress / waitress
• המלצרית = the waitress

Also, מלצרית is the feminine form. Compare:

• מלצר = waiter
• מלצרית = waitress

The ending ־ית is a common feminine ending in some nouns.

בעצמה means herself or by herself / personally, depending on context.

In this sentence, it gives emphasis:
she herself would speak with the waitress

It suggests something like:

• she would do it personally
• she would handle it on her own
• not someone else

The word is built from:

• ב־ = a preposition here used in this expression
• עצמה = herself / her own self

Related forms:

• בעצמי = myself
• בעצמך = yourself (masculine singular)
• בעצמך = yourself (feminine singular too, in writing without vowels)
• בעצמו = himself
• בעצמנו = ourselves

Not exactly.

• בעצמה emphasizes she herself, often meaning personally or rather than someone else
• לבד means alone

So:

• היא תדבר עם המלצרית בעצמה = She herself will speak with the waitress
• היא תדבר עם המלצרית לבד = She will speak with the waitress alone

Those are related ideas, but not identical.

Yes, that is possible.

• היא אמרה שהיא תדבר עם המלצרית בעצמה
• היא אמרה שתדבר עם המלצרית בעצמה

Both can work.

The version with the second היא is a bit more explicit and can sound clearer, especially if you want to make sure the subject is understood as she.

The shorter version is also very natural in Hebrew when the subject is clear from context.

In this sentence, it naturally refers to the subject of the clause: she.

So the normal reading is:

• She said that she herself would speak with the waitress

It does not normally mean the waitress herself.

If you wanted to emphasize the waitress, you would structure the sentence differently, for example by attaching the emphasis more clearly to המלצרית.

This is the most neutral and natural order:

• היא אמרה שהיא תדבר עם המלצרית בעצמה

But Hebrew allows some flexibility for emphasis.

For example:

• היא אמרה שבעצמה תדבר עם המלצרית
  This is possible, but more marked and less neutral.

The original sentence sounds the most straightforward for everyday use.

With vowels, it is:

הִיא אָמְרָה שֶׁהִיא תְּדַבֵּר עִם הַמֶּלְצָרִית בְּעַצְמָה

A rough pronunciation guide:

hee am-RA she-hee te-da-BER im ha-mel-tsa-REET be-ats-MAH

Main stress:

• אָמְרָה → stress on RA
• תדבר → stress on BER
• המלצרית → stress on REET
• בעצמה → stress on MAH

Because English usually shifts the tense back after a past reporting verb like said.

Compare:

• Direct idea: She will speak with the waitress
• Reported after she said: She said that she would speak with the waitress

Hebrew does not always do the same kind of tense shifting that English does. So Hebrew keeps the future form:

• היא אמרה שהיא תדבר

That is one of the most common places where English-speaking learners need to adjust their instincts.