Learn Hardcore Norwegian: Tålmodigheten vår hjelper oss å snakke ordentlig med hverandre. - Our patience helps us speak properly with each other.

Postposed possessive (neutral, very common): definite noun + possessive → tålmodigheten vår.
Preposed possessive (often a bit more emphatic or formal): possessive + indefinite noun → vår tålmodighet. Both mean “our patience.” The postposed version is the default in everyday Bokmål.

Why is it the definite form tålmodigheten and not just tålmodighet?

With a possessive placed after the noun, the noun must be in the definite form: tålmodighet-en
- vår.
Morphology: tålmodig (patient) + -het (‑ness) → tålmodighet (patience) + -en (definite) → tålmodigheten.

Could I say just Tålmodighet hjelper oss … without the possessive?

Yes. Tålmodighet hjelper oss … makes a general statement (“Patience helps us …”). With tålmodigheten vår, you’re talking about our specific patience as a group.

Is tålmodighet countable?

Generally no; it’s a mass noun:

Indefinite: (mye) tålmodighet (a lot of patience), not “a patience.”
Definite when specified: tålmodigheten (the patience).
Plural is not used in normal speech.

Which is more natural here: hjelper oss å, hjelper oss til å, or hjelper oss med å?

All occur; nuances are subtle:

hjelper oss å snakke (very common, neutral).
hjelper oss med å snakke (focus on assistance with the activity).
hjelper oss til å snakke (can feel a bit more formal or emphasize the resulting ability). Your sentence with å alone is perfectly idiomatic.

Where would the negation ikke go?

Put it after the finite verb and usually after the object pronoun:

Tålmodigheten vår hjelper oss ikke å snakke … If you want to emphasize “us,” you can say: … hjelper ikke oss … but that’s marked emphasis.

Why is å needed before snakke? Could I omit it?

Å is the infinitive marker and is required before infinitives (except after modal verbs like kan, vil, må, etc.). So you need å snakke here. Don’t confuse å (to) with og (and).

How do I pronounce the tricky parts like hjelper, å, and hverandre?

hj in hjelper: the h is silent; j is like English y → approx “YEL-per.”
å: like the vowel in British “taught” (longer when stressed).
hverandre: initial h is silent; say “ve-RAHN-dre.” In many accents, the rd becomes a single retroflex sound.
Stress: TÅL-modigheten vår HJEL-per oss å SNAK-ke OR-dentlig med hver-AN-dre.

What exactly does ordentlig mean here, and where should it go?

Meaning: “properly,” “in a decent/constructive way.”
It functions as an adverb modifying snakke.
Natural placement: å snakke ordentlig … (before the prepositional phrase).
Synonyms: skikkelig (very common, slightly more colloquial).
Spelling note: Bokmål also allows ordenlig (less common). Nynorsk: ordentleg.

Why med hverandre and not til hverandre?

snakke med (hverandre) = talk with (each other), two-way conversation (what you want here).
snakke til (hverandre) = talk to (each other), more one-directional or addressing.
Super idiomatic alternative: snakke (ordentlig) sammen.

What is hverandre? Does it change form?

hverandre = “each other/one another,” used for objects/complements.
It doesn’t change for gender/number.
Possessive form: hverandres = “each other’s” (e.g., respektere hverandres meninger).

What forms does vår have?

Masculine/feminine singular: vår (e.g., vår tålmodighet).
Neuter singular: vårt (e.g., vårt språk).
Plural (all genders): våre (e.g., våre barn).

How does the verb å hjelpe conjugate?

Infinitive: å hjelpe
Present: hjelper (same for all persons)
Preterite (past): hjalp (most common; hjelpte also accepted in Bokmål)
Past participle: har hjulpet (most common; hjelpt also accepted)

Can I move ordentlig to the end: … snakke med hverandre ordentlig?

It’s possible, but the most idiomatic choices are:

… å snakke ordentlig med hverandre.
Or even more natural: … å snakke ordentlig sammen. Placing ordentlig before the prepositional phrase (or using sammen) usually sounds smoother.