המנהלת ביקשה ממני לעדכן את הצוות לפני הפגישה.

Because the subject is המנהלת, which is a feminine singular noun. In Hebrew past tense, the verb agrees with the subject in gender and number.

So:

• המנהלת = the female manager / director / principal
• ביקשה = she asked / requested

If the subject were masculine, you would get המנהל ביקש.

ה־ is the Hebrew definite article, meaning the.

So:

• מנהלת = a female manager / director / principal
• המנהלת = the female manager / director / principal

The noun itself is feminine. The masculine form would be מנהל, and המנהל would mean the male manager/director/principal.

Because the verb לבקש often works differently from English.

In English, we say:

• She asked me to update the team

In Hebrew, the structure is often more like:

• She requested from me to update the team

That is why Hebrew uses מ־ + pronoun:

• ממני = from me

So ביקשה ממני means asked me in natural English, even though the Hebrew structure is literally closer to asked from me.

By contrast, אותי is a direct-object form, and it would not be the normal choice in this pattern.

ממני is the preposition מ־ or מן meaning from, attached to the pronoun אני meaning I / me.

So:

• ממני = from me
• ממך = from you
• ממנו = from him
• ממנה = from her

This is a very common Hebrew pattern: prepositions often attach directly to pronouns.

After ביקשה ממני, Hebrew normally uses an infinitive to say what was requested.

So:

• ביקשה ממני לעדכן = asked me to update

The ל־ at the beginning is the normal marker of the infinitive, often corresponding to English to.

This is very common in Hebrew:

• ביקשתי ממנו לעזור = I asked him to help
• אמרו לי לחכות = they told me to wait

Here את is the direct object marker. It does not mean with in this sentence.

Hebrew uses את before a definite direct object:

• את הצוות = the team

Because הצוות is definite (the team), Hebrew marks it with את.

So:

• לעדכן את הצוות = to update the team

If the object were indefinite, את would usually not appear.

Grammatically, צוות is usually treated as a singular collective noun: it means team / staff, even though it refers to a group of people.

So you would often get singular agreement with it:

• הצוות מוכן = the team is ready

If you want to focus on the individual members, Hebrew may instead use something like:

• חברי הצוות = the team members

In this sentence, it means before the meeting in a time sense.

The preposition לפני can mean either:

• before in time
• in front of in space

Context tells you which one is meant. Since פגישה is an event, not a physical object you stand in front of, the meaning here is clearly before the meeting.

Compare:

• לפני הפגישה = before the meeting
• לפני הבית = in front of the house

In the most natural reading, it goes with לעדכן את הצוות.

So the idea is:

• The manager asked me to update the team before the meeting

That is slightly different from:

• The manager asked me before the meeting to update the team

Hebrew word order helps suggest this. In your sentence, לפני הפגישה comes right after the infinitive phrase, so it most naturally describes when the updating should happen.

Yes, but the infinitive is more compact and very natural here.

For example, Hebrew could also say something like:

• המנהלת ביקשה שאעדכן את הצוות לפני הפגישה

That means roughly the same thing: The manager asked that I update the team before the meeting.

Still, ביקשה ממני לעדכן is a very common and straightforward way to express asked me to update.

Because לעדכן is a transitive verb in Hebrew, just like to update in English. It takes a direct object directly:

• לעדכן את הצוות = to update the team

You only add another preposition if you want to mention the topic of the update, for example:

• לעדכן את הצוות לגבי השינויים = to update the team about the changes

So in your sentence, the team is the object being updated, and no extra preposition is needed.

Yes. This is a very natural Hebrew word order:

• המנהלת — subject
• ביקשה ממני — verb + complement
• לעדכן את הצוות — infinitive phrase
• לפני הפגישה — time expression

Hebrew word order is somewhat flexible, but this version sounds neutral and standard. It is a good model sentence for this pattern.