Learn Dutch: Jij bent de vrouw. - You are the woman.

Both words mean 'you' (singular). Je is the standard, unstressed version you will use most of the time. You use jij when you want to put special emphasis on 'you'. In English, you would show this by stressing the word when speaking: 'YOU are the woman' (not someone else).

Is bent the normal way to say 'are' in Dutch?

Yes, but only for 'you' (singular). The dictionary form of the verb 'to be' is zijn. Just like in English, this verb is highly irregular. When using jij or je, the correct form is always bent.

Why is it de vrouw and not het vrouw?

Dutch has two words for 'the': de and het. Which one you use depends on the gender of the noun. Vrouw (woman) is a feminine noun, and all masculine and feminine nouns use de. The word het is saved for neuter nouns.

If I make this a question, is it Bent jij de vrouw?

Almost, but not quite! When you turn a sentence into a question, you swap the verb and the subject. However, there is a special spelling rule in Dutch: when jij or je comes right after its verb, you drop the 't' at the end of the verb. So the question becomes Ben jij de vrouw?