Learn Hardcore Chinese: nǐ jìde tā de míngzi ma?

Use 的 to mark possession: 她的名字 is the normal form. Dropping 的 (她名字) sounds unnatural here. The 的 can be dropped mainly with close kinship or set terms (e.g., 我妈 for 我的妈妈), but not with 名字.

How do I answer this naturally?

Yes: 记得。/ 记得，他叫王菲。
No: 不记得了。/ 忘了。/ 想不起来了。 Avoid answering with “yes/no” in English; use the verb: 记得/不记得.

What’s the difference between 记得, 记住, 记不得, and 记不住?

记得 (jìde): to remember (a current state). 我记得他的名字。
记住 (jìzhù): to memorize/retain successfully (result achieved). 我终于记住了他的名字。
记不得 (jìbude): can’t recall (now). 我一时记不得他的名字。
记不住 (jìbúzhù): can’t keep it in memory (even after trying). 这个单词我老记不住。

Can I use the A–not–A form instead of 吗?

Yes: 你记不记得她的名字？ This is very common and a bit more direct. Pronunciation tip: 不 becomes bú before the fourth tone 记 → jì bú jì de.

Can I front the object for emphasis?

Yes: 她的名字你记得吗？ This topicalizes “her name” and puts emphasis on it, but the meaning is the same.

Can I drop the subject 你?

If context is clear, yes: 记得她的名字吗？ Chinese often omits subjects when they’re understood from context.

Can/should I add 了: 你记得她的名字了吗？

With 了, it often implies “by now/yet,” focusing on a change of state: “Do you remember her name now (yet)?” Without 了, it’s a neutral yes–no question about whether you remember, in general.

Which de is which here? I see both 的 and 得.

的 marks possession: 她的名字.
The 得 in 记得 is part of the verb meaning “to remember,” not the complement marker. For reference, the true complement marker 得 links a verb to a complement: 跑得很快 (runs very fast). There is also 地 for adverbials (e.g., 认真地学), but it doesn’t appear in this sentence.

What’s the difference between 她 (tā), 他 (tā), and 它 (tā)? How do I know which to use?

They’re all pronounced tā (first tone), but written differently:

她 = she/her (female)
他 = he/him (male)
它 = it (objects/animals) In speech you can’t hear the difference; context tells you which one. In writing, choose the right character.

Is 名字 (míngzi) the same as 姓名 (xìngmíng), 名 (míng), or 姓 (xìng)?

名字: “name” (general, everyday).
姓名: full legal name (surname + given name), more formal.
名: given name only (in modern usage), or “name” in set phrases.
姓: surname. Examples: 她的名字是李华。/ 她的姓名是李华。/ 她姓李，名华。

Is 名字 written with 字 or 子?

It’s 名字 with 字 (zì, “character”), not 子 (zi, “child”). The pinyin ends with a neutral-tone zi, but the character is 字.

Do I need a measure word before 名字?

Not in this sentence. If you count names, use 个: 一个名字、两个名字. Here, 她的名字 is a specific thing, so no measure word is needed.

Any pronunciation tips for the whole sentence?

你 (nǐ) is third tone but becomes a low “half third” before 记 (jì).
记 (jì) is fourth tone; 得 (de) in 记得 is neutral tone.
她 (tā) first tone.
的 (de), 字 (zi) in 名字, and 吗 (ma) are neutral tone. Overall: nǐ (low 3) jì·de tā de míng·zi ma.

Can I add 还 to mean “still remember”?

Yes: 你还记得她的名字吗？ = “Do you still remember her name?” 还 adds the “still”/“anymore” nuance.

Can I use 吧 instead of 吗?

你记得她的名字吧？ is a confirmation-seeking tag (“You remember her name, right?”), often expecting “yes.” It’s less neutral than 吗 and carries a presumption.

Is 她叫什么名字？ a valid alternative?

Yes, but it asks a different question: 她叫什么名字？ = “What is her name?” Don’t add 吗 when a question word (什么) is present.

Is there a regional variant with 儿, like 名字儿 or 名儿?

In some northern speech (e.g., Beijing), you’ll hear 名字儿 or 名儿 with erhua. They’re colloquial; 名字 is standard everywhere.

How can I make the sentence more polite?

Use the polite “you” 您: 您记得她的名字吗？ You can also soften with 请问 at the start in a broader context: 请问，您记得她的名字吗？