Setting Boundaries: The Dative of Viewpoint
In English, when a workout is too hard or a schedule is too packed, we say it is "too intense for me" or "too much for him." We use the preposition "for" to show whose perspective or personal limit we are talking about.
In German, you don't need a preposition. Instead, you express this subjective standard using the dative case (the "indirect object" case) of the personal pronoun. Grammar books sometimes call this the dative of viewpoint.
To express that something crosses a personal limit, simply place the dative pronoun before zu (too) and an adjective:
- mir zu schnell (too fast for me)
- dir zu viel (too much for you)
Let's look at how this works when evaluating your own training pace or workload:
| We should train step by step, the pace is too fast for me. | Wir sollten schrittweise trainieren, das Tempo ist mir zu schnell. |
| Reduce the pace, the training is too intensive for me! | Reduziere das Tempo, das Training ist mir zu intensiv! |
You can apply this to any person simply by swapping out the pronoun. For instance, use dir (for you) to comment on your conversation partner's limits:
| Work step by step, otherwise the workload is too much for you. | Arbeite schrittweise, das Pensum ist dir sonst zu viel. |
| You need more recovery, the strain is too great for you. | Du brauchst mehr Erholung, die Belastung ist dir zu groß. |
Similarly, you can use ihm (for him), ihr (for her), uns (for us), or ihnen (for them) to describe how a strain or recovery period feels from someone else's perspective:
| He should find a balance, the strain is too much for him. | Er sollte eine Balance finden, die Belastung ist ihm zu viel. |
| The week was intensive, and the recovery is too short for us. | Die Woche war intensiv, und die Erholung ist uns zu kurz. |
Finally, you can easily use this structure inside subordinate clauses. The dative pronoun typically sits right next to the subject of the clause, keeping the meaning exactly the same:
| I think that the goal is too unrealistic for us. | Ich denke, dass uns das Ziel zu unrealistisch ist. |