Abang saya membantu saya mengurus kewangan keluarga.

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What does abang mean here, and is it only used for my biological older brother?

Abang literally means older brother (male sibling older than you).
In everyday Malay, it can also be:

  • a polite way to address a slightly older man (like “big brother” in English or “oppa” in Korean),
  • sometimes used by a wife for her husband (informal, affectionate, especially in Malaysia),
  • used for a male cousin or other older male relative in some families.

In this sentence, the most straightforward reading is “my older brother”, but context could expand it to an older male person close to you.

Why is it Abang saya and not saya punya abang?

In standard Malay, the normal way to say “my X” is noun + pronoun, so:

  • abang saya = my older brother
  • rumah saya = my house
  • kawan saya = my friend

The pattern saya punya abang is more colloquial / informal and often associated with spoken Malay, not with careful written Malay. It’s understandable, but in neutral, correct Malay you should prefer abang saya. The sentence Abang saya membantu… sounds more natural and more standard than Saya punya abang membantu….

Why is saya repeated? Could I say Abang saya membantu mengurus kewangan keluarga?

The second saya is the object of the verb membantu (to help).
So:

  • Abang saya = my older brother (subject)
  • membantu saya = helps me (verb + object)

If you say Abang saya membantu mengurus kewangan keluarga, it literally means “My older brother helps to manage the family finances.” It’s still correct, but now it’s not clear who is being helped; it just says he helps (in) managing.

The original sentence Abang saya membantu saya mengurus kewangan keluarga clearly means “My older brother helps me to manage the family finances.” So:

  • With saya after membantu → he helps me.
  • Without saya → he helps (in general) with managing the family finances.
Could I replace the second saya with dia (Abang saya membantu dia mengurus kewangan keluarga)?

You can, but it changes the meaning.

  • Abang saya membantu saya mengurus kewangan keluarga.
    → My older brother helps me manage the family finances.

  • Abang saya membantu dia mengurus kewangan keluarga.
    → My older brother helps him/her manage the family finances.

In Malay, pronouns are not automatically understood as referring back to the subject; saya means I/me, dia means he/she/him/her. So switching saya to dia changes who is getting help.

Can you break down the sentence word by word and explain the grammar?

Abang – older brother / older male
saya – my / I (here: my, attached to abang)
Abang saya = my older brother (subject)

membantu – to help (verb; bantu is the root, meN- is a verb-forming prefix)
saya – me (here: object of membantu)
membantu saya = helps me

mengurus – to manage, to handle (verb; root urus, prefix meN-)
mengurus here is the second verb, forming a verb phrase membantu saya mengurus = helps me (to) manage

kewangan – finances, financial matters (wang = money; ke-…-an turns it into an abstract noun)
keluarga – family
kewangan keluarga = the family’s finances (kewangan = head noun, keluarga modifies it)

So the structure is:

  • [Abang saya] [membantu saya] [mengurus kewangan keluarga].
    [Subject] [verb + object] [verb + object].
Why is it mengurus kewangan keluarga, not mengurus keluarga kewangan?

In Malay noun phrases, the main noun usually comes first, and the word that describes or specifies it comes after. Here:

  • kewangan = finances (main noun)
  • keluarga = family (modifier)

So kewangan keluarga literally is “finances (of the) family”, i.e. family finances.

If you said keluarga kewangan, it would read more like “a financial family” or “finance family”, which is not what you want. The general pattern to remember is:

  • Noun + modifier
    • rumah sekolah = the school’s building / school house
    • kereta ayah = dad’s car
    • kewangan keluarga = family finances
What’s the difference between mengurus and menguruskan here?

Both mengurus and menguruskan can be translated as to manage / to handle, and in many everyday sentences with a direct object they are used almost interchangeably:

  • mengurus kewangan keluarga
  • menguruskan kewangan keluarga

Both are acceptable in speech.

In a very careful grammatical description:

  • mengurus is the basic transitive form (to manage something),
  • menguruskan (with -kan) can add a nuance of causative or putting something into a certain state, or just emphasize the object.

However, many native speakers do not feel a big difference here, and for learners it’s safe to treat them as near synonyms in this kind of sentence. The given sentence is perfectly natural with mengurus.

How do we know if this is present, past, or future? There’s no tense marking.

Malay verbs do not change form for tense. Membantu and mengurus stay the same for help / helped / will help.

The time is understood from context or from time words, for example:

  • Semalam abang saya membantu saya… = Yesterday my brother helped me…
  • Esok abang saya akan membantu saya… = Tomorrow my brother will help me…
  • Setiap bulan abang saya membantu saya… = Every month my brother helps me…

Without any time word, Abang saya membantu saya mengurus kewangan keluarga is most naturally understood as present / general:
“My older brother helps me manage the family finances (regularly / as a general fact).”

If I want to say “our family finances”, should I change keluarga or saya?

To make it clearly “our family finances”, you normally mark the family as belonging to us:

  • kewangan keluarga kami = our family’s finances (excluding the listener)
  • kewangan keluarga kita = our family’s finances (including the listener)

So a fuller version could be:

  • Abang saya membantu saya mengurus kewangan keluarga kami.
    → My older brother helps me manage our family’s finances.

You usually don’t change the subject Abang saya if the focus is on who owns the family, not who your brother is. The key change is adding kami or kita after keluarga.

Why is saya used and not aku or kami in this sentence?

Saya is the default polite / neutral first-person pronoun in Malay, suitable for almost all situations, including formal ones.

  • saya = I / me (polite, neutral)
  • aku = I / me (informal, often with close friends, family, or in songs)
  • kami = we / us (excluding the listener)
  • kita = we / us (including the listener)

In Abang saya membantu saya mengurus kewangan keluarga, saya appears twice:

  1. Abang saya = my older brother (my = saya)
  2. membantu saya = helps me

If you changed it to aku, you’d get abang aku membantu aku…, which sounds much more informal and is not wrong, but belongs in casual spoken context, not neutral written Malay. Kami would not work because it means we/us, not I/me.