Wishes and regrets (had ik maar / was het maar)

Expressing Wishes with Verb-First Inversion

To express a strong wish or regret like "If only..." in Dutch, move the verb to the beginning of the sentence (like a yes/no question) and add the modal particle maar after the subject. An exclamation mark shows it is a wish, not a question.

If only the gate were open!
Was de poort maar open!
If only the traffic light were green!
Was het stoplicht maar groen!
If only I had my credit card at the gate!
Had ik mijn creditcard maar bij de poort!

Past Regrets: "Had ik maar..."

For past regrets, use the past perfect tense. Start with the past tense of hebben (had/hadden) or zijn (was/waren), keep maar after the subject, and push the past participle to the end.

Remember that verbs indicating a change of state (like verlopen, to expire) or motion usually take zijn instead of hebben.

If only my passport had not expired!
Was mijn paspoort maar niet verlopen!
If only I had waited for the intercity!
Had ik maar op de intercity gewacht!
If only we had not missed the connection!
Hadden we de aansluiting maar niet gemist!

Adding Emphasis and Separable Verbs

To make a regret even stronger, combine maar with toch (toch maar).

With separable verbs like wegrijden (to drive away) or doorrijden (to drive on), the rules remain the same: the auxiliary verb (zijn or hebben) goes at the front, and the full past participle stays at the end of the sentence.

If only the bus had not driven away without me!
Was de bus toch maar niet zonder mij weggereden!
If only he had driven on at the traffic light!
Was hij bij het stoplicht maar doorgereden!
If only I had not driven the wrong way!
Was ik maar niet verkeerd gereden!