Relative pronouns (którego, któremu)

To describe extended family members like a brother-in-law (szwagier) or professional associates like an advisor (doradca), you can connect clauses using the relative pronoun który (who, whom, which, whose).

When you connect clauses with który, it follows two strict rules:

  1. Its gender matches the noun it refers to in the main clause.
  2. Its case depends entirely on its role in the relative clause.

który declines like an adjective. In the Genitive, Dative, and Instrumental cases, the singular forms are:

CaseMasculine / NeuterFeminine
Genitivektóregoktórej
Dativektóremuktórej
Instrumentalktórymktórą

(Note: The feminine Genitive and Dative forms are identical).

Instrumental: "z którym" and "z którą"

Use którym or którą if the relative clause uses a preposition like z (with) or a verb requiring the Instrumental case:

This is my brother-in-law with whom I work.
To mój szwagier, z którym pracuję.
My daughter-in-law, with whom I live, is very nice.
Moja synowa, z którą mieszkam, jest bardzo miła.

Some masculine professions end in -a (like zastępca or doradca). While the noun itself takes a feminine-looking ending in the Instrumental case (z zastępcą), it is grammatically masculine and requires the masculine pronoun którym:

The boss is talking with the deputy with whom he is leaving tomorrow.
Szef rozmawia z zastępcą, z którym jutro wyjeżdża.

Genitive: "którego" and "której"

Use the Genitive forms to express possession ("whose"), after prepositions like od (from), or with verbs requiring the Genitive case (like szukać - to look for):

This is my sister-in-law, whose house I like very much.
To moja bratowa, której dom bardzo mi się podoba.
This is my son-in-law from whom I got this present.
To mój zięć, od którego dostałem ten prezent.
Where is that brother-in-law I am looking for?
Gdzie jest ten szwagier, którego szukam?

Dative: "któremu" and "której"

Use the Dative forms for the indirect object of the relative clause ("to whom" or "for whom"). You will need this with verbs like pomagać (to help), ufać (to trust), or kupić (to buy for someone).

This is my nephew for whom I bought a bike.
To mój bratanek, któremu kupiłem rower.
This is the partner I trust.
To ten wspólnik, któremu ufam.
The sister-in-law I want to help is not here.
Nie ma tu bratowej, której chcę pomóc.